While I was researching the family tree I discovered that my father’s cousin, Santini “Sonny” Lucarelli, had 2 children, Santini Jr., and Sandra Jean. I was able to find quite a bit on information on Santini Jr., I even found his children on Facebook, but I could find absolutely nothing on Sandra Jean. I talked to her niece, but the only information she knew about her was that she had died young, of leukemia. It was a painful subject for her dad and grandmother, and they rarely talked about her. I kept looking and finally found a newspaper announcement, with a picture, of her marriage to Roy Otto Delibertis. I looked through the
newspapers some more, and from the articles I read about Roy I concluded that they had divorced approximately 2 years after they were married. I didn’t find any other articles on Sandra Jean. I decided to try and find Roy Otto. I found a R. Otto Delibertis with a phone number in Boyertown, PA, so I called the number. A woman answered the phone and I asked to speak with Otto Delibertis. She asked me who was calling so I explained who I was and that I was researching my family tree, and I told her if Otto was the person who I was looking for then he knew my relative that I was trying to find information on. Otto was sitting right there so she put him on the phone. He turned out to be the correct person, and he was very nice, especially with his wife sitting right next to him! He verified that he and Sandra Jean did get a divorce, and he also told me that when she died she was with another man and they lived in Reading, PA.
I changed the focus of my search to Reading, PA, and I found her obituary. This gave me her death date, where she was buried, and her 2nd husband’s name. Anyone who knows me knows I love 2 things, photos and documents. I wanted a copy of her death certificate. Unfortunately, in PA, unless you are a direct descendent, you can’t get a copy of the death certificate until 50 years after death so I would have to wait until 2024. I decided to see if I could find her 2nd husband, James S. Wesner. I came up with nothing! It was as if he had never existed. I was getting so frustrated. I finally found a name, address, and phone number for a James S. Wesner in Reading, PA in 2002. It took me a few days to get up the courage to call, but I did call. It turns out I found the correct man. I talked to his wife because he is extremely hard of hearing. I was hoping he had a copy of the death certificate, or a photo of her, but unfortunately, he had neither. His wife was very gracious though, and told me if I had any other questions I was welcome to call back.
I still wanted to find a decent picture of her, and I came up with what turned out to be a brilliant idea. I went to Classmates.com, and it turns out that they have copies of just about every yearbook from Boyertown High School. That’s where I got the picture at the top of this post. I was missing a lot of photos of Lucarelli’s from the Boyertown area, so I started going through the yearbooks trying to find photos. While I didn’t find all that I was missing, I did find quite a few!
This has been a very frustrating, and a very rewarding experience. It is amazing how one little bit of information can lead you to so much more. I’m very happy that I was able to fill in so much information about her in the Family Tree. Sandra Jean, you are not forgotten!